I saw Richard, it was our third date. He is winning me over by being caring and generally lovely. I went to his place. He looked so pleased to see me and smiled at me all night in the way people do when they really like you. He made dinner for the two of us. The sex was great. I would not describe it as ‘professional’ in the way that LK is professional, zeroing in on the right spot like a heat-seeking missile, but it was still great, he does it the same way he does everything else, with care. You can tell he’s been in long relationships. He is taking his time finding his way around me. Nice. I feel pampered.
He reminds me a lot of my ex husband (I was married for 9 years back in the 1990s to a sweet, patient man). I don’t know what to think about this. If LK’s skills revolve around industrial-strength orgasms then Richard’s skills are in the area of being affectionate, achieving an easy intimacy and making you feel like you are having an actual relationship with him. What to do? If I keep seeing this guy, and I have every reason to want to keep seeing him, then before long we will be in an actual relationship. If I want a proper boyfriend who is considerate and looks after me, Richard is the man for that job.
At one point he put his arms round me and I let him hold me and didn’t flinch or pull away. Usually I don’t like anything soppy unless it is coming from me. So letting him do that was a bit significant.
So. I don’t know what to do. I thought LK was the one with more to offer but Richard is overtaking him with an onslaught of Nice that LK will struggle to beat. An amount of Nice that JC couldn’t accomplish if he sincerely tried, which he has no interest in doing.
Ah well, I can hardly complain, can I. I got 99 problems but an attentive man who makes dinner ain’t one.
I’m going to be super busy again now for the next two weeks and Richard is going on holiday so I have time to think about what action to take next.
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